Today I had my Ipod on shuffle in my car and Destiny Child's Cater To You came on. Immediately, my mother said "Change that song. Nobody caters to men anymore". I stopped and thought to myself for a second, "why so bitter mom?" I decided to open up the topic for discussion during the car ride and asked why she felt it was unnecessary to cater to men. She went on the talk about how women no longer live that way and how men can do for themselves. True, right? But, I feel that nothings wrong with catering to your man. Cook, clean, back rubs. If he deserves it, he gets it. We, as women, expect guys to be chivalrous and open doors, walk us home, and fulfill our every demand. So why is it looked down upon when we're expected to return the favor? I've taken a few feminist theory based classes since I've been in college and I've come to realize that there are double standards held by a great deal of females. Women want to be treated well by their men and taken care of, but do not feel that its necessary to do the same. It's funny that my mom of a previous generation is against the idea of "taking care of your man" (for lack of better words) and I'm one hundred percent for it. Don't get me wrong, I'm no one's servant but I think it fine to do for your man. Its 2009, and I feel like a lot of us get so hung up on differing from previous generations and their ways that we lose sight of whats important. If you care for someone whats so wrong with making them happy? I wonder how other females feel and males chime in too. Leave your comments.
"fulfill your every desire, you're wish is my command. i want to cater to my man"