Thursday, June 18, 2009

so you know i want to ri-i-i-i-ide out

As much as I hate to admit this, I am a magazine junky. And of the many magazines that I escape into for hours, Cosmopolitan, is by far one of my favorites. For any one who has yet to flip through the glossy informational pages of Cosmo, basically the magazine serves as a sex-guide for all women (and possibly a sex guide for all the smart men who want to know how to "properly" please a female). I've been reading the magazine for about 2 years now and every issue there is some mention of the male's favorite sexual position.

Rap music has brain washed some into thinking that all men prefer to "hit it from the back", but according to recent sex surveys, woman-on-top is by far the preferred way to do it (no pun intended). To my surprise, although men enjoy this position quite a bit and it is said to be quite pleasurable for females also, many couples or not-so-much couples don't engage in the woman-on-top act. Why might this be?

My take on the whole situation is that it brings discomfort to both men and women, not physically speaking of course. Woman shy away from the thought of being placed into a domineering role in the bedroom and aren't quite sure if they're "doing it right" and bringing pleasure to their man. And men shy away from the idea of laying on their backs, making themselves submissive to the female.

According to experts, all things good come out of the woman-on-top experience (when done right). Woman-on-top allows for the male to easily access the females spot (and what woman doesn't want this?). One of the biggest complaints from men concerning their bedroom experiences is that they feel "they do all the work"... with this being said, ladies' give your man the "night off" and get to working. Men and women both will walk away happy so take a chance and like Jeremiah said in his hit single Birthday Sex, "ri-i-i-ide out". And for all people who have a great deal of experience with this position, here are some "different" takes on it (via cosmo) that will hopefully spice things up:
  • thigh master: 'if you’re bored with the standard woman-on-top pose, this position is a fun, frisky way to mix things up. Your guy lies on his back, one leg outstretched and the other bent, knee pointing upward. You straddle his body sideways with your back turned slightly to his face, hold on to his knee, and lower yourself onto his penis. In this pose, your stomach is almost touching his bent knee; use it for support and leverage as you rock back and forth, and up and down'
  • the love seat: 'tell your partner to lie back, propping up his head and shoulders with a pillow, and have him spread his legs slightly. While you're facing the same direction — your back is to his face — lower yourself onto his hardened penis. Put your feet between his legs on the floor or the bed. Take your right hand and place it on his right hip bone and your left hand on the bed next to his left hip bone. Use your hands and feet to move your body up and down on his shaft'
  • row his boat: 'your partner slouches down in a comfy but sturdy chair, his legs slightly spread. You straddle his lap as you face him, your knees bent and open against his chest, your feet braced against the seat of the chair. While your guy grips your hips, thighs, or butt, you clutch the back of the chair and begin moving up and down along his shaft'
for detailed tutorials, animated pictures, and the reasons why this positions are desired, check out and search under the 'sex position of the day' section.

"shawty is a rida..."

p.s. shame on me for promoting lil wayne's nonsense

-toria malia


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    Max Gibson

  2. thank you. i'm glad you enjoyed.