used & abused

lets redirect our attention from chris brown & rihanna to tiger woods.
domestic abuse, it can happen to ANYONE right?

well... yes. although 85-95% of domestic violence cases involve a female victim, there are the few cases in which the male is the victim.

current case up for discussion that falls into that 5-15% : Tiger Woods.

according to news sources,

"Tiger Woods got into a car wreck around 2:20am Friday morning. He wasn’t ruled as “under the influence,” so what caused him to ram into a fire hydrant less than 30 feet from his driveway?

Sources are reporting that his wife, Elin, got uber pissy with him after that story of the him cheating with some chick hit the net. She scratched his face up after a verbal argument (despite reports originally concluding the scratches came from the accident), he tried to speed away from the house, Elin chased and banged his car down with a golf club, and then the wreck occurred."

if we believe this to be true, why is it that Elin is getting much praise for her actions?

chris brown took to twitter saying this: @MechanicalDummy: the world is so onesided... case closed? just like that.

Elin ABUSED Tiger but people aren't running to every online social networking site, gossip blog, etc. to criticize her actions... instead people are saying

• succeeded at the biggest come up of the decade; reworkin their pre-nup agreement so that Elin had to stay with Tiger for 2 years (which she’s already done) to get $300 million rather than the original 10 year/$20 million agreement
  
• On a scale of 1 to chris brown I'm Elin Woods mad
• Elin has just released her own line of golf clubs.... the only clubs you can beat tiger with

i agree 100% with chris.

yes, i am aware that Tiger cheated and she acted out of vengeance but does that excuse it?

in my opinion, no. abuse is abuse and no one has the right to put there hands on another person in attempts to do harm, be they man or woman. why does this double standard still exist?

growing up, i was always told that a man should never hit a woman and i believe this to be true. but do women have the right to act abusive towards men? i don't think so but i want to know what you guys think so chime in.

CHRIStmas LIST

Most Wanted List (in order)

• Steve Madden Immense Boot in Cognac (SteveMadden.com @ $199)
  
• Marc by Marc Jacobs Stainless Steel Logo Watch: black (Saks.com @ $125)
• Marc by Marc Jacobs Totally Turnlock Pouch: Black (Saks.com @ $68)
• Marc Jacobs Lola Solid Perfume Ring (Nordstroms.com/Sephora.com/Saks.com @ $42)
• Wii System for my apartment (anywhere that sells a Wii @ $199)

this is a rough draft. ha.

boredom

things i do when i am bored

• organize my closet
  
• read old magazines
  
• paint
  
• look through all of my tagged facebook pictures
• grocery shopping
  
• word search app on my ipod
• polyvore.com
• online shopping... particularly saks
• write poetry
  
• web cam pictures of myself
  
• search new recipes online
  
• goggle calenders
  
• take on extra shifts at work
  
• makeup new cutesy nicknames for my mommy (i.e. jugga jug & kissy poo)
• make flashcards for classes
  
• plan out the next 5 yrs of my life... sometimes 10
• try new nail polishes and designs
  
• worry my boyfriend :]
  

idk.

i still don't know how i feel about this whole situation.

i find no peace

I find no peace, and all my war is done.

I fear and hope, I burn and freeze like ice, 

I fly above the wind, yet can I not arise,

And naught I have, and all the world I sieze on.

That looseth nor locketh holdeth me in prison,

ANd holdeth me not, yet I 'scape newise;

Nor letteth me live nor die at my devise, 

And yet of death it giveth me occasion. 

Without eyen I see, and without tongue I plain;

I desire to parish, and yet I ask health;

I love another, and thus I hate myself; 

I feed me in sorrow; and laugh in all my pain. 

Likewise displeaseth me both death and life,

And my delight is cause of this strife.

-Sir Thomas Wyatt the Elder

broke it down and now i appreciate it. poetry is a beautiful thing once you understand. 

art.

i only appreciate fashion when art is involved. 

#rulesofrelationships

• #ruleofrelationships make sure you have rules in a relationship. you don't wanna look back and be like "damn, smh"
  
• #ruleofrelationships don't claim you're wifey material and then act otherwise
  
• #ruleofrelationships NEVER say it unless you mean it... the worst thing to have in a relationship is REGRET
  
• #ruleofrelationships remember that sideline hoes r nothin more than bench warmers... wishin & hopin to get in the game but it never happens
  
• #ruleofrelationships FB is just FB... dont treat it as your personal relationship investigator/detective. the ish you see on FB is nothing more than ish 
  
• #ruleofrelationships get to know your significant other deeper than what you can find in their "about me" section of facebook
  
• #ruleofrelationships ladies, if you got a good man, hold on to him tight. recognize that he's good and ignore all the outside bullshit
  
• #ruleofrelationship cater to your man... they like to feel special to. cook, clean, back rub, new position. ha.
  
• #ruleofrelationships never push a specific agenda in a relationship. let that shit naturally develop & grow. it'll be worth it in the end
  
• #rulesofrelationships never question who's writing on your bf's wall... 9/10 its just some female tlkin to herself. ha
  
• #rulesofrelationships don't get advice from your friend who's relationship is NOT working
  
• #rulesofrelationships accept that person for everything they are and everything they aren't
  
• #rulesofrelationships memorize at which point in the month she gets her cycle. it'll explain alot 
  
• #rulesofrelationships be in tuned with each others needs and fulfill any wants in the process
  
• #rulesofrelationships keep it spicy, updated, and fun 
  
• #rulesofrelationships grow together 
  
• #rulesofrelationships Know a woman's worth
  

 i'm no expert.

JC

since the day i stepped foot into Need & Supply Co. and purchased my first pair of Jeffery Campbell shoes 4 years ago, i have been in love. his shoes are an embodiment of the work of a genius. no one does shoes like Jeffrey Campbell does shoes. i will wear a pair of his shoes until the sole wears off, no matter how many times my mother attempts to get me to throw them out. ladies, if you want fashionable shoes that are ultra comfy, seek Jeffrey. 

p.s. his shoes are heaven sent, its no coincidence that his initials are JC

shut up chick, swallow

Study: Fellatio may significantly decrease the risk of breast cancer in women

"Women who perform the act of fellatio and swallow semen on a regular basis, one to two times a week, may reduce their risk of breast cancer by up to 40 percent, a North Carolina State University study found."

when i first read this, i couldn't help but wonder what made the researchers at North Carolina State University initially hypothesis this and then actually experiment.

sorry

double major with two jobs.
will make time soon.

thoughtful food

“When I was a young person, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town, and as an older person, I tried to change my family. Now, as an old person, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”

--An Unknown Monk, 1100 A. D.

my lip gloss is poppin

just finished catching up on all that i missed during the VMAs and still can't seem to get myself together. the awards showcased nothing but pure buffoonery, including lady ga ga's insanely unfathomable nightmare before christmas/the wizard of oz costumes and performance, kanye's liquid courage unscripted (?) out roar during T. Swift's acceptance speech, Beyonce's 25th millionth pants-less performance that reminded us all that her body is by far the hottest, and Wale's dehydrated sway and breathless mumbles due to his inability to sit during the hours his was standing on stage under hot light in that hot ass jacket... but what stood out amongst all the above mentioned nonsense was LIL MAMAS unannounced appearance during one of the best performances of the night. despite the fact that i don't know her, she really does scream "attention hungry annoying muskrat girl" whenever i see her. did she not measure the fame level and untouched caliber of the two artist (Jay-Z and A. Keys) already on stage and think to herself, "i don't meet the requirements... i don't fit in"? obviously NOT. because she felt it was okay to "shoulder lean" her drag-queening ass onto stage. as an everyday girl, with fame that doesn't extend far past the next chick's lip smacking nonsense, i am well aware of when i am not welcomed or disliked by others. with outlets like twitter, myspace, and facebook and the mere fact that she is a "celebrity" (d-listers do count), you would think that lil mama would realize that she is always DOING THE MOST and learn to act accordingly.

after her unwelcomed cameo, all of twitter was buzzing about a particular trending topic and i couldn't help but to share: #lilmamais

• @TaraKnowaItAl #lilmamais jayz's 99th problem
• @Tiff_Jerz2ATL #lilmamais AAHHHH Real Monsters!
• @TLtheAries #lilmamais not covered under Obama's health care plan
• @Naveen_Ishh #lilmamais the reason why the plan b pill is over the counter now.
• @bkjamdown1 #lilmamais the little engine that couldn't
  
• @nursekaren #lilmamais the best mama joke ever!
• @beatroc #lilmamais at the bar right now with Kanye talking bout "man, you know we f**ked up"

bahahha... those all gave me the good laugh that i needed. but in all seriousness, i feel bad now for encouraging the "going in" sessions on lil mama. ready to go to sleep and say my prayers. hope you all enjoyed this year's video music awards... definitely entertaining.

achieved.

today, as i was editing my layout for "lets go little kitty kat", i came across a blog that i posted a few months back which included my to-do list for summer 09. unfortunately, i didn't complete everything on my list, but the most important items are definitely checked off... take a look.

1. buy and wear grey nail polish [CHECK]
   
2. new car [CHECK]
3. become official [CHECK]
4. get back on top of my surfing game
5. photoshoots like shit [CHECK]
6. read Kaffir Boy and Black Boy again [CHECK]
7. see Hannah Montana movie on DVD [CHECK]
8. spend lots of quality time with him [CHECK]
9. start to change my style... less girly, more edgy (we'll see how this goes) [CHECK]
10. take care of my hair because it always gets damaged during the summer months [CHECK]
11. take out that sick ass sewing machine i had to have and actually put it to use
12. work on my singing skills
13. tan, tan, and more tan [CHECK]
14. learn how to bake my own pound cake
15. wii fit while drunk [CHECK]
16. kayaking lessons
17. good concert(s) [CHECK]
18. save money... instead of spending all that i have [CHECK]
19. continue working out in the gym [CHECK]
20. and plan for the best fashion show that will be taking place in fall 09 [CHECK]

happy to know that i can look back on my summer and pin point the meaningful things i did, rather than recalling long bummy days and night. going to work on #4, #11, #12, #16. but in the meantime, i'm in the process of setting goals for the fall... will update you all.

feng shui

in the house the decor is obvious obscure

its clearly the theory of less is more

a plant. a pet. and books on the shelf.

and a frame on the wall where you can picture yourself.

and you're welcome to stay.
but even your company must compliment
the feng shui.

task at hand: acquiring a sense of feng shui in my new place... i've moved all of that into a room about 1/3 of its size and it doesn't quite feel like home yet. so many problems coming in to my place & i desire a space in which i can escape and feel at peace no matter what. any suggestions on developing a sense of home-away-from-home?