black barbie.

after finding about Franca Sozzani's ingenious black barbie issue of italian vogue, a spin off from the successful july 2008 all black issue, i was inspired to write a post dedicated to all the black barbies in my life [and somewhat distant].

• my mother. my heart. my soul. and everything in between. shes my everything and i wouldn't be the person i am today with out her. in my opinion, she exudes what a true black barbie is because shes both beautiful and strong. she inspires all those around her and truly has and will continue to make an impact on the world.
  
• my two litte sisters. lawren & larelle. although we fuss. fight. and argue all the time. they are my road dogs and the sunshine in my life.
  
• my aunt. thalia. she's such an oprah wanna-be but shes both loving and caring and those are qualities that i admire and appreciate.
  
• my granny and momma rose. such beauties. with such grace. i'm glad i inherited their genes.
  
• god sisters. the twins. kelsey & kristal. they're such happy young ladies & i've always looked up to them.
  
• ms. karen. she hooks my hair up. she always calls me wack, but i forgive her. how many young ladies do you know with a master's degree in psychology & a cosmetology license???
• chanel iman. she doesn't know this, but i love her. shes just so beautiful and gives off such great vibes.
• yvonne vera. read a novel written by her and you'll understand why. r.i.p.
• whitney b. warner. most fashionable girl i know. such a sweetheart. everyone should have a friend like her.
  
• shannon dolphin. another sweetheart with so much talent.
  
• selam a. this girl is amazing. definitely a future ceo.
  
• joyner j. how can you not appreciate someone who always speaks the truth? love her.
  
• rachel. such wisdom at such a young age.
  
• kendall. maybe one of the sweetest girls i know.
• safiya. such creativity. future roomie.

there are more but here are just a few who've crossed my mind lately. love you all if you're reading this.

you asked for it...

many have taken offense to this commerical for one of those "text you question to..." companies in which a common sterotype about african american women is depicted... unfortunately, all i can do is laugh at this commercial because sadly, it is the truth. your "natural" weave did in fact come from that little billie goat/yak in the yard... claim it, love it, wear it. lls.




p.s. take note of the asian lady in the background doing nails...

and always remember that stereotypes are based on reality... no they do not apply to all but they are not 100% false

cross my fingers, hope to die

i saw this and immediately thought of us.

if it had not been.

if it had not been for the
spur of the moment, extra courageous
outburst of desperation,

would you and me together forever
be more than just a figment of my imagination.

would this never felt this way feeling be felt
thanking god endlessly for the hand which i was dealt.

would so good be so good or simply second rate
a sucker for love i willingly fell victim to your bait.

tender pleasant union of soft protrudes adored
daily build up of allegiance carefully stored.

shamelessly loving that which does not know
that a seasons passing made more than just the trees grow.

this part is called love.

1/2 year challenge

2 years later & i still haven't forgiven myself for chopping off all of my hair...

its grown back at an impressive rate (i guess) but i'm still not satisfied. after reading the Anti-Hair Slave blog for the last couple of months, i have lots of new knowledge on how to properly take care of my hair. starting Aug. 1, i will be undergoing a hair growth challenge. the average person's hair, when taken care of, grows about 1/2 inch each month. my hair grows a bit quicker than the average person... probably 1 inch a month. i get my ends trimmed every 6 weeks... so i'm thinking that with normal wear & tare on hair... i can expect about 5 inches by February. we'll see.

here is a current picture:


lets hope this works.

ms. long hair, don't care.

this is my boyfriend's idea.

lets make this as simple as possible and cut straight to the point...ladies, stop your whining. lately it seems like every female around me is complaining about how hard it is to find a significant other. i like to play devil's advocate so its only right that i begin by stating that LADIES, you are, in fact, the problem. let's be real for a second... on numerous occasions i've sat and listened to girls cry and whine about how they're just no good men and in the same breath they prove to me why they're alone.

for starts, a lot of females seem to think they're entitled to a good man. is that right girl? psssh please... you can't be serious when you say you want a "good" man, but you bring nothing to the plate. i know females who once were in a relationship with "good" men/boys, but as a result of their own actions, they brought about the demise of the relationship. constant nagging, jealous spirited ways, lack of trust, princess mentality. in all honesty, none of these qualities are going to keep someone worth keeping around for long. i thank god that i naturally developed what i call "good girlfriend syndrome". they're rules to maintaining a good relationship:

• rule #1: don't question your significant others every move. trust serves as the substance and foundation of any relationship therefore, a relationship without trust is nothing more than in culmination of shattered dreams.
  
• rule #2: leave your jealous ways behind. its not a good look. jealousy shows insecurity and insecurity is a weakness that will push any man away. i always say to myself "i'm beautiful and smart with a great personality... who's competing?" recognize whats special about you and keep reminding yourself.
  
• rule #3: throw some dryer sheets into your relationship and "de-cling". become over attached in a relationship could be a bad thing... especially early on.
  
• rule #4: let things progress naturally: don't push a certain agenda or force anything thats not occurring on its on.

anyways, i'm no expert so if you are reading this post a comment letting myself and other readers know what rules you feel should be in a relationship.

until next time...
adios

is your mom pregnant?

currently my mom has 3 kidneys... a good one, a bad one, and an ugly one. when she went into kidney failure a few years ago, by the grace of god, she was blessed with a live & healthy kidney. at the time of the kidney replacement (or rather addition), doctors decided not to remove the non-functioning kidneys for fear of increased chances of complications and infection. at an early age my mother was diagnosed with polycystic kidney disease. PKD is a genetic disorder characterized by the growth of numerous cysts in the kidneys. Unfortunately, the cysts in my mother's old kidneys have continued to grow until the point that here kidneys have gone from the standard 115 grams to a mind blowing 25 pounds. of course, as you can imagine... carrying around two 20+ pound kidneys is like carrying around sextuplets (6 damn babies)... her ribs have been stretched until breaking point & all of the lining of her abdomen which keeps her intestines and other organs in tact has completely ripped. tomorrow one of those kidneys will be removed and my mothers abdominal wall will be repaired. she's happy to know that she'll only be carrying around triplets after the surgery. lol. anyways, i'm asking everyone out there to pray for a successful surgery and speedy recovery. i'm so on edge now because i know this is a major surgery and i just want others to aid me in praying for her. thanks.

you can have whatever you like yeahhhhh

so now that i know my readership is growing & growing, i would like to know what you all want to read about. i try my best to avoid repeating what you would see on every other blog so make sure your suggestions are creative. you can leave them as a comment under this post and hopefully i can address your topic in a manner that satisfies you. thanks!